The Science Of Squirt: What Is Squirting, And How Do You Do It?

You don’t need a penis—sometimes how to squirt, the deepest arousal comes without it. The more you build, the more her body opens—and the closer she is to reaching orgasm. The urethral sponge is beyond the vaginal wall, meaning it’s not as easy to access as, say, the clitoris, which responds well to clit toys. If you still can’t quite get to it, an S-shaped or hooked sex toy should help you.

The combination of support and teasing builds anticipation and arousal, heightening her pleasure. Gently move your fingers in small circles around the entrance of her vaginal canal, applying light pressure. Let her body guide you as you gradually build up speed, increasing arousal. You can also use your penis for this technique, teasing the entrance lightly before going further. The key is to maintain control and build anticipation.

Because the initial sensation can be similar to needing to pee (at least for first-timers), the need to be pretty relaxed to let it all go. While it’s true that the fluid produced when someone squirts contains urine, it’s not the same as peeing during sex. Most recent data on squirting in the United States shows that around forty percent of adult women report squirting in their lifetime. About 60% of those women report squirting to be pleasurable, but only 20% of women always experience squirting at the same time as an orgasm [5].

Most of my clients have had no issue trying this position in the past. The only problem that could occur is that you are either too tall to comfortably reach her spot without bending very far down. Aftercare is important because of how intense this experience can be. Be supportive, make her feel at ease, and don’t forget to pull out so the fluid expels. With that in mind, there are things you can do to enhance her arousal prior to your session.

If you’re looking to find your G spot, start by relaxing. As you explore your body, do what feels best to you. When you’re ready, begin massaging the opening to your vagina before inserting your fingers or a sex toy. A long and gentle foreplay, for example an erotic massage, should be your starting point. It’s about responding to your partner and building a feeling of closeness.

This is different from the sexual secretion that’s created during arousal, which typically lubricates the vagina (sometimes called ‘getting wet’). Squirting often happens during the female orgasm, but that’s not always the case. Not everyone may experience squirting, and not everyone who squirts does so all of the time.